Your relationship is how you design it

Posted on 06. Apr, 2009 by Cute Eve in Love + Emotion

Hello Dear, this is sure going to be a fun filled week, you know why? Its the feeling in me. Know this… “Your relationship is what you assign it to be”. I pressume you are in a relationship or looking forward to one. Well, Welcome to the first write up by Cute Eve on “love n emotion”. Here, my quest is to be factual with real life situations in relationship & mind troubling thoughts. Cute Eve will try & proffer considerable answers to these issues. If you have any questions or you are going through unpalatable stress, just catch me or send it to info@streetnaij.com. Do have a great time learning more from “love n emotion”.
RELATIONSHIP! RELATIONSHIP!! RELATIONSHIP!!! This could be from a platonic level to an intimate one. It enables you to feel what ordinarily, would not be felt especially when the feeling is mutual and that is why “it is what you assign it to be”. Most times you would not want to be left alone, because you believe that loneliness is scary & might take away the best part of you. My dear, that is not true because what you call loneliness is what I call “being patient”. With patience you will know what your next option is and if really the feeling is mutual. Sometimes, you see and reason the obvious but shy away from it not knowing you are doing more harm than good.

In essence, you know being treated negatively is not suppose to be so but you stay succumbed because you feel this is it… “if I let go I might not have it this good again so let me just be making do with what I have”. You might not know this but you are increasing the grip of the already tied shackles. But if you know what HOUNOUR, DUTY and LIBERTY are in a relationship then you would know that it is what you assign your relationship to be that it turns out to be.

HONOUR: This I know is to feel very proud and pleased with your partner, it is also to be able to show off publicly that you admire your partner, which in turn makes you feel more confident of the person in question. It might be that you are short of this feeling in your relationship since honour seems little or is not existing in your relationship. You might also be feeling that if you should call your partner to order it might ruin the little good going on which might as well cause break-up and then you would be left alone. But you keep forgeting the fact that expressing the obvious will solve a lot, because your partner might change from a non-chalant attitude to a caring and more loving person. This will then take the relationship to a higher level.Thus, your relationship is what you assign it to be.

DUTY: this is known to mean something one has to do because it is morally right, just an obligation. Your relationship is suppose to be a 50/50 thing because it is an agreement that is binding by love, it is not static but flexible because new things are learnt from each other every now and then. It is not an obligation because you are no prisoner but a person trying to express how you feel about your partner. You are not suppose to be afraid or duty bound when together. However, one thing is certain, there should be mutual understading and respect between both partners. If you feel obligated in your relationship, I would say you loosen up because you might end up having inferiority complex which might deter you from other relationships. So, I say, love freely and make sure you are loved no matter the circumstance, because your relationship is what you assign it to be.

LIBERTY: This again is the right to do whatever you want without being afraid of your partner, like duty bound. If you know what I mean. Nevertheless, you ought to have the freedom to express yourself and take decisions when and if your partner is not around but be sure to explain things when your partner comes around so as to avert distrust in your relationship. Just imagine you being a freelance and all of a sudden you are restricted to some certain degree, this will definately cause occasional bickering and once in a while blow-up. You must have the liberty to always look good to the brim respectably because it makes your relationship more colourful and interesting. Try to be innovative and make positive changes in your relationship. My dear, things are in state of FLUX meaning that you can not step into the same river twice. I bet you now know that your relationship can be what you want it to be…..Cute EvE